Behavior After Father Dies
One case that stands out in my mind was a 12 year old boy, who's natural father had died in a motor bike accident. (his mother had separated from the father and re-married some 8 years before). The boy was grieving, and acting up at school, and just generally being very hard to get on with, angry, etc.
The mother brought him to me for a session, and I would have to say he was probably about the most reluctant client I have ever had! As I have had 5 sons of my own, I was able to get a kind of rapport with him, and just said if he wanted this session to hurry up and be over, all he had to do was mirror what I was doing (no words needed) and he could be out of there! He actually complied and you could literally see the change in attitude within 10-15 minutes or so.
His mother kept in touch and said the behaviour improvement was amazing.
Another little boy, a 5 year old son of a client, was really miserable at having "no friends" at school - so I had him tap for
"Even though I'm not very "POP-UL-AR" (his way of saying the word), I'm a real super-boy" -
this worked and his mother also reported a very positive change in attitude for the better.
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